When a marriage hits the rocks, one of the easiest situations to find yourself in is having an affair! Relationships with people outside your marriage or long term are often more appealing than staying faithful to spouses and partners. Affairs are new, exciting and a reminder that we are still vital and desired people. These are the compelling reasons why so many people find themselves having an affair. The downside of an affair only ever faced when things get out of hand.
If you are considering an affair, relationships are about to become difficult for you. Whether that relationship be your long-term one or for that matter, the affair you’re embarking on. You might think that your long-term relationship is bad now but just wait until your partner/spouse discovers you’ve been cheating on them.
Your spouse will feel betrayed, angry and devastated. Yes, the affair will devastate your marriage. Instead of turning to someone outside your relationship remember the promises you made. No marriage or relationship is without problems, the trick is to work at remaining focused and committed when these problems hit. So turn to your spouse or your partner instead of some seemingly appealing outsider.
Explain clearly to your spouse how you feel. Just because you are feeling this way about your relationship/marriage, it doesn’t mean it’s the same for your spouse/partner. They may very well have no idea you feel the relationship is in trouble, the only way you will know for sure is if you talk to them.
It is crucial that you both take the time to listen to each other. Avoid judging and criticizing each other, because this will not make either of you feel you can be open and honest about your feelings. If your spouse feels they are going to be mocked or criticized, then they will clam up. Equally so will you.
If you have already embarked upon an affair, then you need to weigh up what you want. Perhaps the marriage is well and truly over? You will only know this if you explore with honesty and sincerity how you feel. There is no good for either you or your partner in staying in a marriage/relationship that is just not working. If the relationship/marriage is toxic then the answer is to end it and with as little harm as possible.
Affair? Relationships? They both take time and effort and opting for an affair is not necessarily the easiest option youcould take. Whatever you’re doing, and whoever you’re doing it with, there at least three sets of feelings involved. Your lover might be casual about what they’re doing in the beginning, but attachments are easily and quickly formed and before you know it, your lover could be putting all kinds of demands around what they want from you.
Think long and hard about the problems in your marriage/relationship. Is your relationship worth fighting for? If it is then you must do everything you can to avoid anaffair! Relationships can be greatly rewarding and an affaircan be deeply devastating.