It can be challenging to move on after a breakup, even if you’re the one who did the breaking up. You might start to feel a little lonely and start doubting your decision. If the words “I broke up with my boyfriend,now what do I do?” have just come out of your mouth rest assured that you do have options.
The first thing you need to do is decide whether or not you want to stay broken up with him. This isn’t the time to be jumping from one emotion to another. There was a reason you ended your relationship and more than likely, it was a good one.
If you had a good reason to breakup make sure you stick to your guns and don’t let a few minutes of doubt convince you to get back together with him. You are just asking for trouble. For one thing it is highly likely that he will be bitter and may try to punish you for hurting him.
Another thing to consider is that whatever problem caused you to end the relationship will still be there so you’ll just be getting into a messy cycle of breaking up, getting back together just to break up again.
If you’ve decided that breaking up was premature and you really had a relationship worth saving then your work is cut out for you.
The first thing you should do is to try to set up a meeting with him. Calmly, rationally, and honestly explain to him why you felt you needed to end the relationship. At this point it will help your case enormously if you can come up with a good explanation.
Next, you should explain to him that since the breakup you’ve had a lot of time to think things over and you realize that you made a mistake. You have to not only convince him that you’re sure you want him back, and that you won’t just break up with him again in a few weeks, you also have to make sure that’s how you feel deep inside. Game playing is absolutely not acceptable.
After you’ve had a chance to explain to him why you made the choices you did you have to stand back and let him decide what he wants to do. If he feels that he just can’t trust you anymore and he doesn’t want to take you back it’s your turn to bow out gracefully and move on.
“I broke up with my boyfriend” is a phrase most women will use at one time or another in their lives. What you do after that depends on how you feel after you’ve had time to calm down and think things through.