How to deal with behaviour problems in children by Chris Thompson – Author, Parenting Expert and Certified NLP Practitioner
Watch this FREE video for important tips on how you can best communicate with your child and deals with your toddler’s behavior
4 Facts You MUST Understand if you are Ever Going to Effectively Deal with the Terrible Twos or Children Behavior Problems
Behavior is driven by Emotion, NOT Logic. This is fundamental to everything, including understanding toddler behavior. Behavior, for any person of any age, is determined by their emotional state. People ACT from their emotions, and they later JUSTIFY their actions with logic. But small kids don’t have the ability to use logic, so they act purely from emotion. Keep this in mind when dealing with behavior in toddlers.
We tend to overuse the word “No” when we talk to our kids. This causes problems with toddler behavior. You remember the story of the boy who cried wolf, right? The little shepherd boy was bored while watching the sheep so he decided to cry wolf and make the villagers come running. Before long, they stopped responding to his false cries. When a parent cries “No” at every little thing, kids stop listening. The parent’s cries fade into the background. Behaviour problems in children can stem from this caveat. I’ll teach you multiple ways to get what you want without screaming “NO” at your child – and it simply works better!
If you want to have any chance at all of influencing your toddler’s behavior, you MUST have rapport first. Rapport simply means having an emotional connection to another person. I’ll show you how you can learn LOTS of ways to create this crucial emotional bridge before you deal with children behaviour problems.
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Language is a powerful tool and there are a bunch of tactics you need to learn to create the outcomes you want. Here’s a specific tip: Use positive language instead of negative language. This is explained in detail either in the free audio lesson above, and in the video presentation.
Dave provided an audio testimonial that I think does a wonderful job of describing exactly the type of problem that Talking to Toddlers solves. Dave speaks clearly about how he was looking for a toddler-specific program that he and his wife could use together, along with a specific experience of how Talking to Toddlers worked for him. If you catch yourself nodding in agreement with Dave’s way of thinking then you will love Talking to Toddlers.
Chris, I recently purchased your “Talking to Toddlers” mp3 and it was fantastic! Literally, this is not an exaggeration, but the same day I first tried presuppositions and double-binds, I saw a change in my relationship with my 2 year old son. In the week following, whereas before our relationship largely consisted of Dad the enforcer and toddler the oppressed (with lots of feelings of guilt and lots of tears respectively), we became closer, happier, and I really feel good about being a Dad now. Especially since I have the tools for guiding my son, but at the same time honoring his inherent rights to dignity and self-determination magic bullet. I continue to work through your lessons and apply the tools they provide.
Thank you for the toddler tips! I laughed in agreement as I read your most recent tip, which mentions Milton Erickson (whom I studied about as a Psychology major in college) and hypnotic commands. I know these things work. I am using the techniques you have been emailing me and LOVE THEM, they are working with my 3-yr-old boy. I strongly believe in power of suggestion and I am familiar with NLP, just hadn’t thought about it the way you presented it and I will now be telling my son stories using this technique.I can’t wait to hear all your other tips!
Chris – I bought your audio course two weeks ago. Let me tell you that you are my hero! I have a boy who is nearly 3 and he was driving me crazy to the point where I thought I failed as a mum. I’m only on lesson 6 and my boy is changing in front of my eyes. Your strategies really work and to my surprise when I test them on adults they work too! Thank you very much. You have changed my boy and my life on the whole.
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